• Have you ever wondered how brain functions, how many times your thoughts, emotions and behaviors have let you down, inspite of the all the positive psychology knowledge you have and the various understandings you have?
  • Why is your knowledge of no use and relevance when you know so much?
  • And do you wish sometime that you could have all the secret techniques to help you live your personal life and professional life the way you always desired?

Why wait when the 21st century cutting edge change technology is available right here in India to put into your hand the resources and tools to take charge of your life. Neuro Semantics offers you the technology to bridge the “knowing and doing” gap.

The gestalt of all Change Management, Performance secrets, Self-Leadership, Emotional Intelligence is the Neuro Semantics-NLP conducted under the auspices of the International Society of Neuro Semantics-USA based on the Human Potential Movement started by Abraham Maslow and the need of all human being for Self Actualization.

The Trainer Romeo Haokip is one of the only 2 certified Neuro Semantics-NLP Trainer in India and the only one who conducts regular Meta NLP certifications.

Fee is inclusive of the Manual which is $69.99, Lifetime Certificate Fee, E-book and 7 days Meta NLP video worth Rs.17,000, Lunch, Teas and Snacks for 7 days. 

Fee is Rs.48,000 . However, every New Year we have extreme discounts for everyone who wants to join. If you want crazy unbelievable discounts for more than 50% please contact us ceo@leapsmanagement.com or call 9986149749. If you’re company sponsored there is 10% extra charge for the TDS cut. 

For Outstationed candidates, there are accommodations available from Rs.450 and above per night.

NLP Practitioners and Master Practitioners from other NLP Bodies can attend the program  at just Rs.15,000 for this first batch of the year.

Venue:  Around Anand Rao Circle, Near Railway Station, at a 3 Star Hotel. (Exact venue will be intimated through email)

Date: 1st -7th February, 2015.

Pre-requisite: Reading “The User’s Manual for the Brain” by Michael Hall and watching the 7 days Meta NLP videos which will be provided to you after your registration. Book early to prepare yourself to read and watch.

Contact us at ceo@leapsmanagement.com or call +91-9986149749.


NLP is considered the number 1 tool of choice among the top celebrity business and life coaches around the world. It is well known that many top politicians including Bill Clinton, Tony Blair, and Barack Obama are trained in NLP. Celebrities that are known to use these skills are Oprah Winfrey, Sophie Dahl, Lily Allen, Gerri Halliwell and Jimmy Carr. It is said that Robbie Williams use a very simple NLP technique before going stage. All of these people use the skills of NLP to help them succeed in their profession.

What are Established Magazines and other opinion leaders saying about NLP:

  • “NLP may be the most powerful vehicle for change in existence…” –Modern Psychology.
  • “NLP has untapped potential for treating individual problems….It has metamorphosed into an all-purpose self-improvement program and technology.” –Time Magazine


Neuro Semantics also known as the science of success as quoted in the Wall Street Journal, is considered as the latest advancement in the field of NLP and also known as the NLP 2.o version. Widely practiced by coaches and trainers in 40 countries around the world, as a Self-Actualization and Wealth Success tool.


The 7 days Meta NLP Practitioner will certify you as

  1. Neuro Semantics Practitioner from ISNS-USA
  2. NLP Practitioner from ISNS-USA
  3. Coaching Essentials-Module 1 of the Meta Coaching System from MCF-USA.

7 days Internationally Accredited Meta NLP Practitioner Certification from ISNS-USA, Top NLP Certification Provider in the World. It usually is 8 days, and so we will start early at 9AM and end at 6PM, to gain 7 extra hours to make it 8 days’ worth of training.


 This program has immensely helped me changed entire perspectives of my life. I think it’s kind of a rebirth for me. I would like to thank Romeo for being very supportive and bringing the best out of me. Resham Nawaz- Head of Learning & Development at Odisha Television Ltd

I would recommend everybody to attend this because it’s an eye opener and people get to know themselves.We’re so closed; we don’t understand what we are but this program helps you to first understand what you are, your limitations, and how much you can achieve by opening up yourself. It’s amazing, with lots of breakthroughs from my birthtime to my future. Sowmya Swaminathan- Learning Consultant

 In this 6-7 days I felt that the bridging of the “knowing-doing gap was really possible. I believe it was very scientific and I could experience the power of all the techniques. And the fantastic conceptual command that Romeo displayed and demonstrated and it help us achieve in similar ways, I think it was really powerful. This is the program I will recommend to every professional and every person who wants to change and take charge of their lives. Yogesh Bari-Head of People Development,French MNC

For me the biggest takeaway from this program has been increase self awareness. As a coach this program has given us an entire toolkit to help ourselves and our clients as well. I recommend this program to everyone. Welcome to the session with Romeo. Thank you very much for this program. Pankaj Upadhayay-Principal Consultant S Learning & Training

One of the key highlights of the program is the amount of interactions which takes place, the amount of skill building that takes place here. And of course the content is brilliant. The facilitator’s knowledge and his ability to answer questions is beyond any doubts. The reason I would recommend this program to anybody would be because it provides a framework besides all the tools, and the process to follow as coach to take people through a transformation journey.
My expectations were to really learn a couple of well formed tools that will give me some information to work with and showcase them while am training. The reality was completely different. In these 7 days I just really realized, that these second version Meta NLP, made us learn things that we’ve never seen before, to better ourselves and others.
This particular program has been extremely enriching and very helpful in my coaching career.  Been very interesting and helped me to create a new path. I had great breakthrough while working with timeline and also while creating a new part. Thanks to Romeo, it’s been wonderful.

I have absolutely achieved what I wanted to achieve in this program. If you are thinking of this program as a business owner, leader, as a daughter, as a friend, as a girlfriend and as a future wife and a future mother, you have to do this program. We are walking around blind, until you know and experience what Neuro Semantics is. It will absolutely change your life. It’s a new insight, so it’s a must”.  Emily Harrison Executive Director & Founder, Innovaid Advisory Services

Thumbnail When I first decided to join this program , I had no idea what I was going to do. Infact I had many many doubts about it. But am really astonished by the unprecedented impact this program has left on me. It  has helped me dispel years of doubts and fears. It has also actually helped me understand where am coming from when I react to various situations. And I would also like to thank Romeo who’s been an absolutely fantastic coach. And I think he has in him what it takes to make a person believe in himself.  Shafina Segon Head of Marketing South Asia- Taylor and Francis Group.

 “Thank you Romeo for providing this awesome, awesome 8 days training. To say that it was a learning experience would be an understatement. This program has the potential to change the way you think, improve your personal life, your relationship, careers avenues, people management, team management. No matter whether you’re in a Senior Management, Middle Management or any level this course will help you fit in and perform in your organization better and I highly recommend this course to everyone”. Parvathi’, an Ex HR Center Manager, MBA-IIM-Bangalore.

Thumbnail  “When I thought of coming for this program there was actually lot of reservations in my mind because I have heard about NLP from different various aspects. And this program has given that leverage point. It has given me higher purpose in life for the very first time. Romeo comes up with immense value proposition in the entire frame of experience and knowledge. I wish all those who wish to take a meaningful decision in life and go for excellence, this is a great way to start. .Great learning for more than a lifetime and an awesome Trainer….Just Fantastic! I truly believe now that Neuro-Semantics is way to go”Sukanta Das Head of Learning & Capability Development Vodafone Group.

Thumbnail I’ve heard about NLP a lot and wanted to see what it is and it was absolutely amazing. It had a profound impact on me. And I believe everybody, even people in the field of Psychology must do it. It’s beautiful, the practices and everything is just amazing. And it was more amazing because I think we had a Coach like Romeo who made best effort to help us in every possible way. I really felt that was a breakthrough session especially for me. Sakshi Kaul- Professional Psychologist, Gurgaon.

Thumbnail“I suggest everyone this course because this is one of the best course I have ever attended and because this is the best program to create human excellence. Despite having difficulty in attending this course I made myself to attend this course and in the end it was a beautiful journey for me. I suggest everyone to attend this program because I believe this p rogram is the best program to create Human Excellence”.  Dr Hareesh Babu– Medical Officer.

I never knew this program would induce so much of introspection into me. Am now able to deal with those uncomfortable parts of my life and have the courage to confront them. If you really want to change yourself this is the program to attend”Vijaya HOD, Behavioral Skills,

Manipal Academy of Banking

.Thumbnail“The course is very rigorous, it will challenge you, it will grill you and will make you do things you’ve never done earlier. Attend this course to discover yourself first, though coaching will also be your secondary gain and discover yourself as a better person when you leave. And of course earn this, you will not get the certificate easily, you have to earn it”.        Dr Tushar Chothani– Coach and Trainer.

 If you want to change your life for betterment, move forward personally and professionally and feel the quality of your life has to change, this is the program to do. It changes you and your personality. You will be questioning yourself, your values, your beliefs and strengthens you. Do go for the program“   Rama Sateesh, Associate Dean, HOD, Behavioral, Manipal Academy of Banking.

This program has made to be a better individual today. If you’d like to find a new found you, and you want to be christen and baptized and maybe get a namkaran as well again, this is one program that you should attend- Neuro Semantics. It will help you identify and see things like you’ve never seen before. You’ll be shocked, amazed, excited and even surprised. Attend the program”.  Fiona Lobo,HOD Behavioral Skills,Manipal Academy of Banking

For a list of complete testimonials from other participants please visit our youtube channel at


Teachers, NGOs and people with Social Work Education can send us their scanned copy of their educational background or experience and linkedin profile for special discounts after the early bird expiry.

Why a Meta NLP Practitioner is in high demand around the world?

Meta NLP Practitioner is someone who has learned to use the attitudes, principles and techniques s and NLP to create positive empowering changes in themselves and others that are focussed directly on career success. During the Practitioner Training, you will learn through demonstrations and interactive exercises how to: communicate effectively and persuasively, manage your state of mind and body to handle any situation and overcome unconscious beliefs that might limit your true potential and hold you back from real success.

We focuses centrally on the skills and processes for unleashing your potentials by mobilizing your best resources. If you are interested in becoming more resourceful, running your own brain, taking charge of your own life, and actualising all of your highest latent potentials, the models and patterns of NLP and Neuro-Semantics are designed as tools and processes to achieve just that.

Models for understanding the systemic nature mind-body-emotions & their effect onbusiness systems.
Patterns for developing greater competence, self-confidence, resourcefulness, and success in career, and relationships.
Skills for training, coaching, and consulting for living more mindfully and intentionally in adapting to an ever-changing world.
Self-actualisation of your best values and visions as you create the richest and most robust meanings for a truly meaningful life.

Romeo’s trainings are designed specifically to enhance your professional life. We are well known for its many change techniques – enabling you to set clear and achievable goals and overcome any of the fears and obstacles that may be standing in your way. By becoming a Meta NLP Practitioner you will become proficient in helping yourself and others resolve issues and conflicts and design a future that is both compelling and achievable.

Many significant benefits in the professional arena come from, from increased skills in communications, managing, influencing and team work, to entrepreneurial skills and increased self management for the self-employed and small business owner. Many people considering career changes have also found their NS & NLP skills invaluable in making effective decisions about their future, and increasing their abilities in key areas of life.

This course provides you with all the key concepts of NLP . The “Users Manual For The Brain” is the book based on this training and is an extremely useful addition to the course. Upon payment you will be sent the book or you can pick up the Practitioner Manual to familiarise yourself with the contents.

The International Society of Neuro Semantics-USA is known worldwide for its credibility and capacity to provide PREMIER NLP Training that transforms lives.

These are secondary benefits and features of the certification:

  1. Lifetime NLP Practitionerand also Neuro Semantics Practitioner’s License from ISNS -USA-one of the top 3 Premier NLP Body in the world. Be recognized as a best trained Practitioner.
    2.  Coaching Essential License from Meta Coach Foundation & ISNS – Meta Coaching Level I clearance. (International Coaching Federation’s-CCEU Level Course)
    3. A Participant’s manual of about 200 pages designed and written by Michael Hall and worth around $69.99 with 100 plus patterns and techniques.
    4. Lunch, Mini Breakfast, and evening tea  and snacks included.
    5. Umbrella of credibility under ISNS and access to 3000 pages of Neuro Semantics articles and pages of materials from NS website, the only NLP Society that provides rich materials for free.
    6. Post training support through e group membership at Neurons and becoming a part of ISNS chapter India.
    7. Get to be trained and coached by Romeo Haokip himself, who is one of the Top Neuro NLP expert in India. Get 2 Coaching sessions worth Rs.30,000 FREE if you are the lucky first 2 to book.
    8. Get 3 months phone support and lifetime email support from the Trainer.
    9. Get the Pre-requisite preparation ebook and videos around 10Gbs worth Rs.17,000 of Meta NLP materials as part of your fee package.
  2. The Triple certification fee is included in the fee. Certificate is not charged separately.
  3. Get to re-attend the course for FREE as an Assist Team Leader for enhancing your skill or incase you do not get clear the certification.
  4. 30% discount on your Master Certification.
  5. Learn the MAGIC and the structure to excellence in becoming a “state of the heart” Leader, Coach, Communicator, a Self Actualizing entity, a meta force of energy who not only knows EQ/SQ in the head but have learn tools to embed it in their muscle memory. Learn to stretch your brain in 67 different leadership and managerial perceptual continuum and flexibility, persuade and negotiate convincingly in the Boardroom, get yourself and others into hypnotic trance, learn around 100plus NLP transformational patterns to become the Scriptwriter, the Editor, and the Director of the best Movie-YOUR LIFE and to pass on the tools to others .

 How can the certificate help you Daywise ?

  • Help you gain not justinstant rapport with people for any situation but alasting relationship in Day 1.
  • You will learn to get yourself intobest states and manage your own stateand also learn to influence states in others on the 2nd Day. Patterns like the SWISH, Circle of Excellence, Anchoring, Fast Phobia Cure etc.
  • Also you will learn the most powerful form of questioning techniques-the Meta Model, which you can use during sales, negotiation, conflict management, problem solving, coaching, team meetings to detect layers of frames in the mind of those you converse with; and also goal setting with for self and clients through the Well Formed Outcomeand the SCORE Model.
  • On the3rd Day, you will learn the Meta Programs-also known as the perceptual filters through which people see the world and behave. You will be able to read and figure out people like a Psychometric testing instrument. You will discover and be surprised about how you have been programming yourselves all these years. If you are a CEO or a Recruitment Agent, you can also use this profiling template to filter out and pick people of your choice. But the good news is this is not a Personality Box, it’s a programming that we can easily change. You will find your relationships improve with your family members, employees, clients and they will be surprised at how much you know them even more than they do themselves.
  • On the 4th Day, you will learn thelatest Code of NLP-called the Meta States that changed the course of NLP history forever. You will learn to say No to your negative beliefs and Yes to something you always wanted to belief. You will understand how your higher beliefs and frame govern your everyday behaviours and how you have the ultimate choice and yes varied choices to define and interpret your life the way you’ve always wanted it.
  • On the5th Day, you will learn to detect, uncover the unconscious strategy people run in their mind to do something, what is it that motivates them, make them great learners, performers, decisive, or understanding. You will learn Modeling strategies to lay bare the secret techniques running in someone’s unconscious mind.
  • On the 6th Day,you will be introduced to Timeline, which has defined most of what you are today- Your Personality. We will learn to become aware of our timeline, change timeline and change and edit past events that are still haunting us from moving ahead and living fully in the moment. You will also learn to go into trance in few minutes and send others into trance so quickly that you will wonder if Hypnosis and Trance induction could be so easy. Everyone on the planet has been under hypnosis and trance unconsciously but this time it will be consciously done so that your unconscious is totally aligned with and have permission to do so.
  • On the 7th Day, we will carry forward timeline and try to understand it from the Meta States perspective and run patterns that will help us get rid of old decisions, emotions that are still interfering with our behaviours today, and also move into the future and deal with those unfinished businessesthat are keeping us anxious. Also we will learn to create New Part within us that will help us to trigger and activate desired behaviours like assertiveness, confidence, discipline etc. We will also deal with those internal conflicts that are warring inside of us and not allowing us to concentrate in either area.
  • On the later part of the 7th Day,we will have an Assessment and Testwhere you will be assessed on your competencies and knowledge. Most other NLP Certification just dole out certificates but we at ISNS-USA do not do that.We will withhold your certificate if we think you are not yet ready to receive the certificate, but we will allow you to attend our Next Course for Free to attempt again. Certificates are earned at the International Society of Neuro Semantics. This is what makes us different than other NLP Institutes.
  • If you clear the Test successfully, you will be certified as an NLP Coach, NLP Practitioner and Neuro Semantics Practitioner. And you will be proud to stand head and shoulders above other Practitioners in the country.

“Romeo is a highly conscientious trainer who cares deeply for his audience. His commitment to refining the basics as well as ongoing development make him an excellent trainer”.
Dr Alan Fayter-New Zealand, Dr.Clinical Hypnosis, IANLP Trainer.

Romeo is the only Indian Licensed Trainer and Master Practitioner in NLP-Neuro Semantics in South India from the International Society of Neuro Semantics-USA, who was personally trained at Hongkong by Dr. Michael Hall-Phd, Founder of Neuro Semantics-one of the most respected and recognized Trainer in the whole field of NLP & Cognitive Behavioral Psychology and Colin Cox from New Zealand, one of the finest NLP Master Trainer in the world.

Romeo Haokip certifies NLP Practitioners, Master Practitioners and  NLP Coaches under the auspices of the International Society of Neuro Semantics. Certification runs from 3 days to 14 days. His certification programs outside India cost around US$3000-4500 per participants. His network with highly quality Trainers and Meta coaches spreads across 40 countries. He has strategic partners and operation in Singapore, Malaysia and Sri Lanka currently.

His Coaching and Training Model Origins:

Romeo’s expertise lies in the domain of peak performance and the psychology of Self Actualization based on Neuro Semantics Principles. His Coaching and Training models come from the field of the Cognitive Behavioral sciences, from Developmental Psychology, the Neuro-sciences, General Semantics, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), cognitive linguistics, cybernetics, and system dynamics. He has trained on more than 40 Cognitive Behavioural modules on Personal Mastery, Leadership, Communication, Sales, OD and other softskill topics to more than 40 corporate Clients.
Experience and Industry Sectors:

In his 15 years of experience, he has trained thousands of employees across various industries, of diverse age groups; coached Senior Executives, been an Advisor to many NGOs and taught and lectured in many prestigious MBA schools. He has experience in various industry sectors such as FMCG, Retails, Hospitality, IT/ITEs, BPO, Call Centres, Consulting & Training, Financial, Campus Teaching, NGOs, Coaching, F&B, HRD, Energy, FMCG, SCM, Financial Services, Telecom, Manufacturing, E-Commerce & Retail etc.

Certifications and Licenses 
ü Certified Licensed Trainer of ISNS-USA.
ü Licensed Administrator of MBTI STEP I & STEP II Expanded Interpretive Report
ü Certified Master Practitioner in NLP -ISNS-USA.
ü Certified Meta Coach-II ISNS – ISNS-USA.
ü Certified in “Accessing Personal Genius” and Coaching Genius Instructor-ISNS-USA.
ü Certified in Time Line Therapy, Conversational Reframing, Figuring Out People, Trance, Modeling-ISNS.
ü Certified Voice and Accent Coach, Customer Service, Spoken English & Culture Sensitization.

Contact us at ceo@leapsmanagement.com or call +91-9986149749.


Dealing with the Downside of NLP

On The Future of NLP
Beginning a Dialogue on…

Restoring Integrity to NLP

“A discipline that doesn’t discipline itself
will eventually cease to exist as
a legitimate and respectable discipline.”

L. Michael Hall, Nelson Penaylillo, Bobby G. Bodenhamer and Peter F. Kean

We know that a discipline that doesn’t discipline itself will eventually cease to exist as a legitimate and respectable discipline. Organizations and groups that won’t discipline themselves sometimes invite other agencies to do the disciplining. Past and current investigations even in the Congress of the United States illustrate that. So given this somber thought, perhaps the time has come to raise (again) and address some of the “problems” that we have in our own community and some that people outside of our field have with NLP as a discipline.

Peter F. Kean (Anchor Point, July, 1996) essentially did this with his previous article. There he questioned whether we in the NLP field can even legitimately use the phrase “the NLP community.” We hardly have any formal Associations (at least in the USA) that effectively govern the quality of NLP training and validity of NLP certification. No wonder we have made so little progress in becoming more academically accepted in the States.

This article essentially grew out of some concerns that Australia NLP Trainer, Nelson Penaylillo, offered to me (MH) via email. These concerned the downside of NLP and yet though they came from a position “Down Under” (Australia) they seemed surprisingly relevant. Nelson listed a number of problems that he sees in the NLP field (“community”) which we, as a community, need to address. To this list, NLP Trainers, Dr. Bob Bodenhamer, and Peter Kean have supplemented and expanded. I have tied all of these pieces together. The following speaks “generally” to NLP and not to any specific person or organization.

[1] Lack of awareness and/or recognition. Where in the NLP community do we have an open forums for discussing the pros and cons of some of our issues? To date none of our Journals has provided a forum for an ongoing self-examination of the strengths and weaknesses of the field. Nelson put it this way, “NLP has many problems, including a reluctance to recognize that it has problems!”

[2] Problems with the term “Programming.” Neuro-linguistic Programming has, for the most part, failed to effectively communicate the full significance and meaning of the original “computer” metaphor that has become incorporated into our name. Nelson noted,

“The ‘programming’ bit in the name certainly puts many people off in spite of how much reframing we do on it. And isn’t ‘the meaning of your communication the response you get?’ John Grinder told me (1994) he wouldn’t say he does ‘NLP,’ in fact, these days he doesn’t and feels horrified in his work with companies when someone, recognizing him, says ‘Can you cure my phobia of…?’”

Hall (1995) in an Anchor Point article (June, 1995) suggested that we change the “P” to psychology. John Overdurf and Julie Silverthorn of Neuro-Energetics have already done that as they have trademark the title, Humanistic Neuro-Linguistic PsychologyÔ . Peter Schultz (1997) of Austria notes that in his country, NLP goes by NLPt (Psychotherapy).

The powerful and rapid effects of the NLP technology itself provides (for some) a scary enough prospect itself. Often, we have to avoid announcing that we can change phobias in a few minutes due to the thoughts-and-feelings it evokes in some people. “If she can do that; what else can she do that I may not have noticed.” Add to that the fact that we welcome and utilize unconscious facets of “mind-and-body.” No wonder people can get the idea that NLP manipulates and NLPers operate manipulatively.

Then we use the term “programming” and people pick up on other connotations of the word: the “programmer” doing a job on me, with or without my conscious awareness! This “technology” operates impersonally, inhumanly, without humanistic concerns.

[3] A reputation for manipulation. Though we say a person should enter into, and pace, other realities, many NLPer have all too often attempted to force themselves onto people and other realities. Obviously, this puts many people off.

Nelson, “Imagine how much more powerful you could work in sessions, or in general, if people didn’t know you were ‘doing NLP.’ But once they know they tend to become on guard against you or they expect miracles from you with little effort on their part!”

Accordingly, our field has developed a reputation for “manipulating” and not in the positive sense of “handling things effectively.” Perhaps we have Monster-Modeled instead of Meta-modeled with an attitude of gentleness, respect, and consideration. Perhaps we have come across with too much arrogance and too little pacing.

[4] Difficulties of making a career of it. We have heard horror stories of some places encouraging people to take NLP training expecting to “become a therapist,” and/or setting up a private practice. The human change technology within the domain can enable a person to make effective changes about lots of things, but it doesn’t make one a therapist in most states or countries. “Making a living with NLP,” wrote Nelson, “sucks.”

Nor does everybody quickly make all of the personality shifts and changes needed in order to also achieve rapid results in one or two sessions. Sometimes it takes years for a person to become truly proficient, smooth, and effective with the tools. Using the model, after all, necessitates adopting a pretty radically different way to think about people, pathology, healing, language, etc.

Further, those who do have or enter into the therapy field have to face the practical questions about how to make a living when you do become proficient enough to cure phobias in one session. Richard Bandler purportedly can charge $500 a hour and get by with it, but who else can do that? Many therapists have found their practice suffering. They discover a new problem–keeping enough clients around to make a living! How much can you charge for it? Yet how many people continue to take “NLP Training” thinking that it, and it alone, will prepare them to become a counselor, let alone a “professional licensed counselor?”

[5] NLP’s “failures.” Now many people have indeed ‘tried NLP’ and found it lacking. In the research field, we have studies and experiments that tested for some aspect of the NLP model and concluded that it didn’t work. Within many of these research reports that we have seen, significant problems exist with the methodology employed, with bias, with uncontrolled variables, etc.

Hall (1995, 1996) has noted that some of this may arise from attempting to work with a meta-level structure involving several layers of self-reflexive consciousness while using only primary level technologies. This especially holds true for attempting to use a sensory-based anchor (a visual, auditory, or kinesthetic anchor) on a piece of subjectivity that involves meta-level layers of thoughts-and-feelings about other thoughts-and-feelings.

Nelson began this conversation by writing,

“I keep bumping into people in the alternative community who have done some NLP and then dropped it. Why? Because the didn’t find that it delivered on its claims of fast, miracle cures. What may look and operate ‘fast’ and near ‘miraculous’ when a highly practiced and trained person does it transfer for the new practitioner. Also, I have found that the talk of ‘parts’ of themselves has put them off.”

Bodenhamer (1996) warns clients against assuming that “NLP can solve all problems in a matter of a few minutes.” In an extensive 21-page explanation of NLP for therapy and change, he separates the “problems” presented into a typical psychiatric list and then distinguishes between “minor,” “major,” and “severe” cases of the difficulty (see figure 1). In each category, then he estimates (from his own clinical experience) the amount of time that it will probably take to bring a satisfactory resolution. This seems to us a much more sane and reasonable approach.

“I teach my students that sometimes NLP provides rapid changes and sometimes not. However, in the vast majority of cases it provides faster change than does traditional therapies including my experience with brief therapy.”

Figure 1

Specialties of NLP of Gastonia and the Number of Hours Required for Resolution

The Desired Change Hours Required
Hours Required
Hours Required Severe
Addictive Behaviors 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Agoraphobia 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Anxiety 2 – 4 5 – 8
Co-Dependency 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Compulsions (OCD) 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Depression 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Eating Disorders 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Emotional Abuse 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Grief Recovery 2 – 4 5 – 8
Guilt Removal 2 – 4 5 – 8
Marriage & Family 5 – 12 13 – 18
Panic Attacks 2 – 4 5 – 12 12 – 18
Phobias 2 – 4 5 – 12
Physical Abuse 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Sabotaging Success 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18
Sexual Abuse 2 – 4 5 – 12 13 – 18

I (BB) have based these figures on approximately 400 clients during a period of 6 years. On very rare occasions, the length of time required has been 19 to 28 hours.

[6] Lack of quality in training and certification. Being an NLP practitioner has begun to become pretty meaningless when some people can do so in six days, or ten days, or even in twelve day courses. This shortening of the time and the supposed 130 hours of in class and hands-in training weakens the meaning of the NLP Practitioner Certificate. Some have begun to offer training in this highly experiential field by correspondence course–which strikes us as involving a certain inherent contradiction.

Further, while we generally like and appreciate the equalizing effect of not requiring that a person necessarily have a college education to take NLP training, this too can become a problem. Because when a person rushes through an NLP training course without significant attention given to the meta-model and how it teaches “critical thinking” skills, they can end up without a comprehensive view of that foundational model. In itself, (when taught well) the meta-model can install within a person a “liberal education” mentality. After all, as it distinctions map from territory and explains how language works, it breaks down “know-it-all-ism” and cultivates an exploratory attitude in people so that they come to really care about precision and specificity, etc.

So with the meta-program teaching. When taught well and thoroughly, a person can come away with an appreciation of how they have tended to “run their own brain,” how others use different software “programs” to run theirs and how that these do not describe moral rights and wrongs, just different styles. This encourages understanding, compassion, and tolerance. Perhaps we should publicize more thoroughly that the NLP model necessitates some hard thinking and studying and not just a quick and dirty way to getting a certificate.

[7] Lack of community spirit. What shall we say about the lack of a community spirit in the field of NLP? As already noted, Kean (1996) even raised the question whether an NLP “community” exists using the typical definitions of such. In addition to this from the first law suit between Bandler and Grinder to those that occurred last year (Bandler and Grinder again!) and those occurring this year, we not only have ongoing litigations in our “community,” but also peevish and cliquish infighting about who does “real” NLP.

Nelson has noted that the initial set-up of a field or movement can establish a direction or style that may take years to re-correct. In the case of NLP, the iconoclastic personalities of Bandler and Grinder and that of Fritz Perls who they modeled to say nothing of Milton Erickson has perhaps encouraged too much individualism, autonomy, idiosyncraticism, competition, inability to get along with each other, etc.

“Perhaps we can trace back many of NLP’s problems (or challenges) to the initial frames placed around NLP by the influence of its founders. I think these are in urgent need of updating. In some aspects, NLP was an overreaction against the psychological climate of the time, hence NLP’s attack on mind reading, therapists incompetence, insistence on therapist taking a great deal of the responsibility, insistence on fast results, discounting of language-meaning and abstraction in favor of sensory experience. How different would the field be if its original frames had been those of compassion, understanding, tolerance as well as competence and effectiveness.”

[8] Lack of regulation. Who regulates this field? Who exercises any influence in terms of quality control? NLP organizations in the States has had a rocky road with splits and divisions. Again, Nelson,

“The field and community of NLP operates in a very unregulated way so that it seems, for the most part, out of control. Anyone can take training, set up an Institute and do all kinds of other things under the name ‘NLP’ thereby giving it (and all of us) a bad name. No control can help the field grow, too much control can help the field remain obscure.


We offer these thoughts to address and deal with the downside of NLP. We do so in order that all of us, as the NLP community, can begin to more openly explore and address them and bring more discipline, compassion, self-correction, etc. to the marvelous model bequeathed us. If we will begin now to assume more of the responsibility that truly belongs to us to discipline ourselves, to protect and guarantee the quality of our products and services to our customers, and to improve the ongoing development of the field, then we can in turn bequeathed a quality community to those who come after us.

In writing this we hope to provoke a response that will involve both “positive” and “negative” in the pages of Anchor Point (and elsewhere) that will lead to more openness about this seemingly hush-hush subject.


L. Michael Hall, Ph.D, NLP Trainer. 1904 N. 7th. St. Grand Jct. Co. 81501.

Nelson Penaylillo, P.O. Box 1514, Rozelle, NSW 2039, Australia. nelsonpl @ australia.net.au


Bobby G. Bodenhamer, NC. D.Min., NLP Trainer, NLP of Gastonia, 1516 Cecelia Dr. Gastonia, 28045. bobbybodenhamer @ yahoo.com

Peter H. Kean, NLP Trainer, NLP Institute, One Brittany Terrace, Rock Tavern NY. 12575.


One of the most powerful premises in NLP and Neuro-Semantics is that our limitations are not real. That when a person feels limited, the limitation is an inside job. From the beginning, NLP has said that people are primarily limited by their maps, not by their reality. If a person is limited or feels limited, that limitation is almost always a function of some mental map that he or she is carrying around. As a result, this means that limitations are about as real as you believe they are real.

Now is that shocking? Surprising? Unbelievable? Well, let’s test it. A good way to test this is to look around at those individuals who have or had many of the same external conditions to deal with and yet who did not let those conditions limit them. Same conditions, yet no limitations. Now let’s make it really personal. What limits you? Make a list of whatever you think are things that are limitations in your life. Now you can begin to explore or wonder if anyone else on this planet has ever had a similar limitation to what you have and yet did not let it limit them.

In NLP this premise arises from the fact that we do not operate on the territory as we move through life or through the world, we operate only on our map of the territory. Some people develop a map that “learning is hard,” that “I’m just not a good learner,” that “learning is boring.” With that mental map you can guess with pretty good odds how they will then relate to the experience of learning. That mental map generates a limiting belief and a limiting understanding. Then living long enough from those
limitations, one would also develop more-a limiting identity, limiting
metaphors, limiting perceptions, etc.

So here is a transformative question to consider:

What if all of your limitations were limitations, not in the world, but in your maps of the world? If you take this on for a day, how would you re-envision your life experiences?

It seems that there are so many conditions of life that most of us are so very quick to label a limitation. Whether it is lack of money, lack of caring parents, lack of schooling, the misfortune of being mugged, raped, imprisoned, etc. there are others who have experienced a similar condition and who did not let it limit them. They refused to map an external challenge as a personal limitation. It could have been a devastating prison experience such that Viktor Frankl experienced in a Hitler Concentration camp. It could have been a more regular prison like Nelson Mandela. It could have been a rape such as Oprah experienced, or deaf and blindness, or
whatever. But the conditions were not mapped as a personal limitation. And so they were not.

What does this mean? It does not mean that “we create reality.” That’s far too big of a jump of logic. An over-generalization like that is unfounded. We do not create reality, but we do create our sense of reality. That is, we create how we experience life and the quality of our life.

It is in this sense that our meaning-making operates as such a creative power in our lives. This brings us back to the magic and wonder and power of language. It brings us back to the neuro-linguistic effects of languaging or mental mapping in our lives. Precisely because meaning is not given, you and I, as meaning-makers have the power to invent what a thing, event, or condition is to ourselves. And as we do, we then endow it with various degrees and qualities of significance.

You and I can over-load things with too much meaning- meanings that it cannot bear. This is the source of addictions. We can just as well under-load things so that it is not meaningful enough for us so we end up feeling bored. And we can create distorted meanings which then generates distorted relationships to things thereby messing up how to think or feel or handle something. This explains why, in Neuro-Semantics, we begin almost everything by examining the ecology of the meanings that we attribute to

Does it work for you?

Does it empower you as a person?

Does it enhance your life?

Does it serve your overall well-being?

Does it unleash your best potentials for being your very best?

While meaning is not inherently given, we live in a social world where others who have come before us have created meanings, meanings that we inherit by virtue of being born in that society. But the meanings given may not be serving us well in the long run. The meanings may, in fact, create all sorts of distortions and dysfunctions and undermine our well-being. So we begin by checking out the meanings attributed. And that puts us in a
position of choice whereby we can change things. We can change our sense of reality by asking,

What would be the very best meaning that I could invent and give to this or that experience? The very best meaning so that instead of experiencing something as a personal limitation, I frame it as simply something to be dealt with?

This is the foundation of all personal, social, and organizational

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.

Neuro-Semantics Executive Director

Neuro-Semantics International